As long as the female species exist and are bombarded by what the world calls "emotions", the whole idea of having friends with benefits is just never going to work, especially if the person is a close friend. Females were not designed to suppress or control their emotions, hence why we are so loud, emotional, gossiping beings. There is only a certain timeframe for such relationships and are indeed like that of a ticking timebomb.
What is even worse than having a friend with benefits is "hooking" your girlfriend up with your brother. These love-social gestures have never worked and are still not to work for anyone attempting to pursue them in the future. I have a friend who hooked up her brother with another friend of mine and whilst in the process i voiced out my opinion and told them that it will never work. Being indenial beings they convinced themselves and I that it is definitely going to work out. A few weeks later, not months...weeks, they have already spread rumours, having middlemen and even spend days without talking to each other all because the friend doesnt want her in her brothers life anymore.
It is another story in the book of life of how friends that link on a more sexual personal level has failed. It is not to say that starting out as friends and deciding to be in a relationship is not going to work, that part is fine. People get happily married to thier lifelong friends and have never looked back. I am talking about individuals who try keep the friendship going, keep it casual and suppress feelings and think that it will work out for the best. That story has hardly worked out, only in the movies. If this ideology is wrong you are more than welcome to try it out and see how far it takes you, by all means.
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